What True Love Really Is


Most of us think we know what love is; we may just be looking for the right person to lavish our love on. But it’s no insult, and indeed it might even be helpful to imagine, that we don’t have much of a clue what love really is, not because we are deficient, but because our culture never investigates the subject as it should. Here is a list of seven ingredients that the School of Life suggests lie at the heart of a proper understanding of love.
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“The world is sick for a surprisingly modest-sounding reason: we don’t understand love – and yet we are rather convinced that we do.
We talk a lot of love of course, but generally in terms of a dizzying rapture lasting a few months focused on someone’s beauty, intelligence and strength. The most convincing discussion of love in the West came from Jesus of Nazareth, which has been unfortunate, given how easy it is to overlook everything he had to say once you don’t ‘believe’.”


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  1. What do you think of our seven ingredients of love? Let us know your own in the comments below and sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: https://bit.ly/2LayJ9F

  2. I feel that this is a little bit infantile. What about accountability? Trust? Reciprocity. Yes everybody is in perfect, and everybody should be given the room to grow, so long as they are willing to do the work and be accountable for their mistakes. But only children deserve unconditional love right? I do believe one of the videos within this series says that very thing. I have enjoyed a lot of these videos, I've gotten some good advice, but frankly I find Brené Brown's work, to be a lot more grounded in fact. And practical application. I think philosophy is incredibly important, and when presented correctly very practical. It's been a huge part of my life. This mapping, of secularism on top of the symbolism of non-secular society, is troubling for me. I find it to be, a little bit condescending. We don't need training wheels. We need truth. As best we can of course… Truth being what it is or isn't if that's the case… I think it's so much Simpler. But who am I, and who cares?

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  4. La – de – da. Fantasy love. According to this, in 70 years, I never met one loving person. "I'll tell you what love is, then try to sell you some books." Why am I subscribed? Oh…yeah…I'm not …I just unsubscribed.

  5. This video is wrong about Jesus. He is Love.

    Quote from the video ”… a neglect of the subject of love" (in reference to Jesus)
    If there was one topic Jesus talked about most it was love. Jesus did and preached everything described in this video and more. Plus, he is the author of this type of love, not this secular video.

    Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control."

    Philipians 2:3 "Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others."

    1 John 4:8 "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

    Romans 5:8 “For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die – but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

    1 Corinthians 13:4-5 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

    John 15:13 “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

    Mathew 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

    1 John 4:10 “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”

    1 Timothy 6;11 “But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.”

    Ephesians 2:4-5 “But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ.”

    1 John 3:11 “For this is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another.”

    Luke 10:27 “He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

    1 John 4:9 “This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.”

    1 John 3;16 “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”

    Matthew 5:44 “But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you”

    John 3;16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

    The list could go far longer than what I offer here.

  6. I Corinthians 13:4-8
    "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…. "
    God is love.

  7. sounds communistic and I think he has been hurt by love so is confused about what it is. it is a preference and you can't prefer everyone.

  8. True love should be something other than and besides romantic type of love. It should more representing between friends & family and being with the person you love the most no matter the race, gender, skin color, or age.

    Like for the way I see things, is that I'm African American and I would love to date and marry an older guy or a woman who is either white or tan, pale or light, Japanese or English, British or German, Spanish or Mexican, Irish or French, Chinese or Brazilian. I don't care.

    Yes, I know my parents are not gonna be happy with my decision and would want me to be with someone my own and my own skin color and race. But, you know what? Screw them! It is 2020 now and we all should be able to make our own decisions and be with someone who is awesome and never gives a shit about our skin color, race, age, or gender too.

  9. As a Christian, this is what I was taught love is. It's unfortunate that any other interpretation is made concerning this matter.


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